Thursday, November 3, 2011
Getting in the mood
In preparation for Hallie's book release, I was thinking maybe we should talk about sex a bit more often around here. I want to start things off by asking a question.
I read sort of a distressing blog post this afternoon by a woman raised in what she called "the purity movement," by which she meant the culture of chastity rings, abstinence promises, and father/daughter purity dances.
Her argument was that by sublimating her sexuality for so many years, she then had difficulty feeling ok with sex once she was married.
In preparation for the chapter I wrote in Hallie's Book, about fifty anonymous Catholic women filled out a survey for me about their family of origin, pre-marital sexual history, and married sex lives. A similar trend definitely made itself known: that some women have difficulty making the transition from "No, no, no," to "Yes, yes, yes."
Here's the question I wish I had put in the survey:
For Catholic women who feel they have a healthy attitude towards sex (i.e. they enjoy it, and see marriage as the proper relationship in which to express their sexuality), what has been the most influential aspect in your upbringing that helped you develop this balanced attitude towards sex?
Please comment anonymously, if you like, but I'd love to hear what you have to say!