Betty Duffy

Saturday, August 13, 2011

The times are a'changing

It's happening that the mornings are cool, my 8 p.m. jog is no longer in broad daylight, four of my kids are about to go back to school, and my baby still at home is almost three years old. Sweet Heaven, what's happened to our youth?

When my older kids were born--boom, boom, boom--I thought it would be forever until my days were quiet, and now--boom, boom, boom--they're all school age--just like that. I'm buying pre-teen deodorant at the grocery store, and those interminable days I wished away when everyone was touching me and clawing for attention, seem appropriately, a decade ago. Mom's old news; there are friends to call.

I had a bundle of pictures developed from my online reservoirs, thinking it was only the past year I'd failed to document, but on their return, no, two years were gone in the time I'd allotted for one. And I don't feel a day older, until I see myself in a picture from years ago and think what a baby.

So where to from here? Go hear a rock band from the 80s and boogie-woogie with the grannies in caftans and faded tattoos, of course. My cousin and I gussied up to go hear Heart, an old favorite wailing band from heartsick nights of longing--and if you can't laugh at the spectacle of a stadium full of varicose romantics, still longing for wishes that were fulfilled years ago, you'd have to cry. The rockers keep trying to play a new song, but nobody wants to hear it.

And anyway, maybe nothing's over yet. No need to hurry myself into diapers, just because all my babies are out of them. I just can't imagine how it's going to go next.


Belfry Bat said...

that's what makes it an adventure!

Kimberlie said...

I went to a friend's wedding this afternoon where I saw acquaintences that I haven't seen in YEARS. Their kids were all in their later elementary years and I was thinking, "When did these kids get so old because I know I haven't gotten any older." :)

Heart, how well I remember them. I think they played at one of our local casino's recently. I should have gone.

BettyDuffy said...

Unfortunately Heart was on tour with Def Leppard, so we had that to deal with, but Heart was awesome. And even though they apparently were on the cover of AARP mag recently, they sound the same as they always have. I can't imagine what it would be like, though, to play the same ten songs every weekend for forty years. Talk about a daily grind.

JMB said...

My brother the priest was a HUGE fan of Heart back in the day. I still have a soft spot for Pat Benatar.

About getting older, I still can't believe that I'm almost 45! Yikes. When did that happen? But I love having older children. I truly do. We hang out. We go places together. I drag them to movies that I want to see, not the other way around. It gets better and better. Don't worry.

karyn said...

I'm still in the boom, boom, boom stage but I really do enjoy it more and more as the older kids get older (even though my oldest is only eight). I like that he has a more distinct personality and we can actually have conversations (and that he can buckle himself, feed himself, and bathe himself). So I'm hoping that the upcoming years will be that much more fun. As for listening to 80s bands -- no thanks, lol!

Enbrethiliel said...


A few years ago, 80s favourites Duran Duran and Swing Out Sister scheduled concerts in Manila within days of each other. Many fans could afford to see only one act. I picked Duran Duran (of course) and was not disappointed: they played stuff from the 80s and 90s as well as the new album they were promoting. The Swing Out Sister fans were not so lucky: the band stuck to the new stuff and didn't play a single hit from the 80s. (Criminal!) You have to wonder how the band felt, though, after playing to a whole stadium of obviously disappointed fans.

What do you do when no one wants to hear your new stuff? Duran's Simon LeBon has said that it's hard to admit to yourself that the best work you've ever done is several decades old, especially when you're still working. And one of the members of ABBA has said that the band will never tour again because it would reduce them to a cover band of their own songs.